#feels
The concept of accountability is pretty simple.
Your word is your bond.
Do what you say you will do....with or without someone having to 'follow you up.'
I'm a reasonable gal....I stop following up and checking in and keeping someone else accountable when they prove 3 times they aren't accountable to themselves. After 3 strikes, that shit is really on you.
YOUR WORD IS YOUR BOND - TO YOURSELF, TO OTHERS & TO THE UNIVERSE
The other day I had a model block me on Facebook instead of messaging to say she couldn't make the appointment we had set for one my assessments. I was a little bemused at the extreme measure of blocking (especially since I had been so nice to her, and her to me, or so it seemed). But at the same time, I was not surprised.
And this is something I need to work on - changing my expectations - because, I don't know about you, but I often get what I expect. I don't know the exact moment when I started expecting less for my life and the way people treat me, but I've certainly felt that creeping in and don't want it to stick around.
EXPECT & VISUALISE THE BEST - YOU CAN HANDLE IT
But aside from taking personal responsibility for my thoughts in this situation, it was a pretty shitty way to start the Friday of a week and a month where we have had more than our fair share of shitty situations to deal with. (Yes, #firstworldproblems I know.)
First, I had been criticised for finally pulling back from offering all of myself to people who had had me long enough and underappreciated me. Ben and I were undermined for our work and had our personal lives questioned by someone who admitted to having no knowledge of the task at hand and the effort we had gone to. And we had our privacy and security violated to a sickening degree with absolute disregard for the respect of property, possessions, memories and the lifelong effort of collecting, earning and building them.
Looking back, last October was the same - equal parts sheer hell and equal parts absolutely glorious. Coincidence? Maybe.
But I always feel at times like this that massive change is happening, and it's happening because we asked for it...and we can handle it.
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"Maybe you're not perfect, but you're willing to actually look at yourself and take some kind of accountability. That's a change. It might not mean that you can turn everything around, but I think there's something incredibly hopeful about that. "
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If you're accountable to something or someone today, do it, and do it without being told.
You're an adult. The outcomes are usually worth it.
And if they're not, get new goals or go nowhere.
